If one individual needs to be collectively however the different is pulled towards one thing else – a scheduled appointment, an evening out with mates, a quiet night at residence – the primary may really feel rejected and the opposite may then really feel responsible. You may be capable to keep away from that if you’re clear from the start about your boundaries.

Allow them to know you’re excited and searching ahead to spending time with them and want you possibly can make all these different duties disappear, however each of you will have issues that want your particular person consideration. So long as you perceive that, it will provide you with the room to do what you’ll want to do and never really feel you’re neglecting your relationship. The essential factor is to emphasise that selecting to do your individual factor doesn’t imply you don’t need to be collectively, and if the opposite individual makes the identical selection it doesn’t imply they don’t care about you.

You could be thoughtful and reassuring by letting one another know when you’re free to spend time to be able to each make your separate plans and nonetheless protect time to be with each other.